chocoheart
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I want some opinions about dating and marriage...How long do you think is a good time to get married??? Is it a good idea to date for more than 5 years before getting married???...If your bf propose to you now, but want to married you in another 3 years after you guys have been dating for 2 1/2 years already would you say yes??? Will you be able to wait??? I was just wondering..so if you guys can help give me some advices..thanks
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it seems like girls are always waiting on the guys, they tend to make the girls wait for a while before it actually happends, but then again some girls makes the guys wait..
if it was me.. If we have a strong bond and I know for sure nothing will change, which will be hard to tell, I think I wouldnt have a problem waiting. The more youknow about your boyfriend before marriage the better, but then again, like all my friends had said, you do not know him fully until you are married to him, thats when his true self comes out.
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why does he have to propose so early?....i would definitely say no....because who knows what can happen in three years?..
u should question him why??...because what if he doesnt trust u...and wants to put a ring on ur finger for three years....a man should trust their woman without a ring on her finger..also....three years of waiting for a guy....u have to be really sure...if ur not....dont do it because....those three years will be like U actually are married....and what if things end up differently than u planned...it's like u wasted three years of opportunties..ull be three years older.......hehe....
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1. ask him why
2. ask yourself is this something ur really delicated to and something u want for the rest of ur life....
ps...ive dated my man for 6 years...and i wouldnt do it if he asked me to marry him in three years....but not because i dont love him...but because to me...if he was certain that he wanted to marry me...he wouldnt make me wait three years..he would ask me, then take me then...
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it seems like girls are always waiting on the guys, they tend to make the girls wait for a while before it actually happends, but then again some girls makes the guys wait..
if it was me.. If we have a strong bond and I know for sure nothing will change, which will be hard to tell, I think I wouldnt have a problem waiting. The more youknow about your boyfriend before marriage the better, but then again, like all my friends had said, you do not know him fully until you are married to him, thats when his true self comes out.
hehhee...that is so true ......i heard of so many stories of where the bf turns into a husband...and things just become unexpected...hahah.... |
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hmm... i think u should wait, if waiting a couple of more yrs make the bond between u 2 go sour, how would u feel living the rest of ur life with him....hehehe... eventhough im a dude, i feel like getting married already.. feel hella old!
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i is vety velly old.... i is already 22.... so yea, im looking for some1...hehehe
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How long do you think is a good time to get married???--- Thats really up to you. When you're ready, you'll know. No one can best answer that question but yourself. And according to what Moze said, once you married them, thats when they show you their true self. People change once you married them. They're not that lovey, dovey as much as when you both were Bf and Gf. Thats just my perspective.I don't think it matter how long you've been dating, taking the next step is a big sacrifice. If you're ready, go for it.
Is it a good idea to date for more than 5 years before getting married?--- 5 years? Thats too long. You might have regrets. Its up to you.
If your bf propose to you now, but want to married you in another 3 years after you guys have been dating for 2 1/2 years already would you say yes?Will you be able to wait??--- He propose but doesn't want to get married yet? Is there a reason why he did that? I don't know. For me, I just think its odd as to why he would do this. Maybe he want to keep you away from guys so no one else can claim you. That just goes to prove he doesn't trust you. In 3 years, all the hopes and dream for a wonderful wedding and future might go into the trashcan. Who knows, he might have a change of heart in 3 years.
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^ very interesting stuff..hmm... i have learn something today.... no wondering some of my cousins get married so quick, like date for less than 1 yr then get married... and i was here thinking the longer the relationship the better..WOW
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i is vety velly old.... i is already 22.... so yea, im looking for some1...hehehe
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How long do you think is a good time to get married???--- When you're ready. I'm married and through the whole process, you gotta be honest to yourself. No one knows when they're ready except the ones that know you. Like your parents, that's only if they're really honest and outgoing. You might think you know, but you don't really know. If I had to give it an estimated time at the least, I'd give it a year.
Is it a good idea to date for more than 5 years before getting married?--- Too much time could be good and bad. You get too anxious in waiting to get married but it also helps to know your significant other more before you get into a life long commitment.
If your bf propose to you now, but want to married you in another 3 years after you guys have been dating for 2 1/2 years already would you say yes?Will you be able to wait??--- If we didn't have any problems and really love each other. Why not? You want to go through the trouble of finding someone again? Then going through trial and error to know that you just missed the best opportunity of your life just because you couldn't wait? What's a couple of more years when you know you want to spend your life with this person already?
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How long do you think is a good time to get married??? Whenever you both feel mentally and financially ready. I know guys who marry when super young and struggling financially. You need more than just love to make a marraige work. Is it a good idea to date for more than 5 years before getting married? It can be good and bad in most situations. But either way, 5years will probably give you an insight view of whether you will get bored of them or not. But keeping that in mind, it can be bad for you if, god forbid, you just grow out of being his sig other. I've seen cases where that happens too but Im in my 5th year and so far so good  If your bf propose to you now, but want to married you in another 3 years after you guys have been dating for 2 1/2 years already would you say yes?Will you be able to wait?? I'd say no personally. If it isnt a proposal for now, its not worth answering now. Last thing you want is to be in the relationship with your answer as the only thing keeping you there. Also, who knows, you guys might still be in the "honeymoon phase" or so i like to call it. Every relationship has a honeymoon phase where your both fake, do stuff u wuldnt do just for each other, but after u get bored of it...you'll move onto a heartbreak phase where you both try to be yourself and handle the sudden change. After that, if you guys make it, its all sweet sailing towards marraige  |
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well it just depend on u realli. If u want to wait than wait..but i do have a friend who date her bf for 5-6 years n they aren't going anywhere..meaning he kept asking her to wait for marriage..n like my mom use to tell me..sometimes yes they do want to marry u..but wat if they don't..n u kept waiting..n ur age reach a point considering u as a "nkauj laus" noone will wants to marry u at the point. My husband told me of one of his friend girl..she dated her bf for a long time n just recently he told her they were done. so it just depend on un him
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it depends.. if you feel like its going some where then it is. but if u feel like you guys are not going any where maybe you guys need to move on. as for me my hubby and i have been together for a good amount of time. like 2+ years. then he propose and we got married afterwards life is great!
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So if he proposed to you now and wanted to get married in 3 years? Thats kinda messed up in
my opinion. Why? Well first of all you both have been dating for 5 years, if that 5 years was
a good committed 5 years why wait another 3 years? theres nothing to lose by getting married
during that year of proposal. Second he must not want to get married yet, but I mean why propose when
you could wait another 3 years and propose on that third year? and what does proposing even
mean now days especially in the hmong religion?
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chocoheart
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THANKS FOR ALL THE ADVICES!!!! ITS VERY HELPFUL...WE HAVE BEEN TALKING ABOUT IT SO MAYBE WE MIGHT CHANGE OUR MIND...LOL...WELL THANKS ALOT
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sweetmisery
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THANKS FOR ALL THE ADVICES!!!! ITS VERY HELPFUL...WE HAVE BEEN TALKING ABOUT IT SO MAYBE WE MIGHT CHANGE OUR MIND...LOL...WELL THANKS ALOT
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i think 2 years is good... my sister and his boyfriend have been together for 9 years coz he wouldn't married before to finish his studies and to get a work... after coz he haven't a car... and after coz he haven't money... finally my sister lose 9 years !! she learnt that he had too many girls even if he came often to visit her at home... she kicked him out and now is married with another... haha my english is very bad  |
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